My wife wants a daughter
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Editor's Note: Every Monday, Lori Gottlieb answers questions from readers about their problems, big and small. Have a question? Email her at dear. Months ago, on a business trip, a female co-worker and I attempted to meet up with others for drinks, but when everyone else bailed, we decided to still go out.
After multiple rounds of drinks, barhopping, and great conversation, I realized we had an intense connection. After the business trip, we continued to talk and meet up for drinks. The feelings got stronger and I shared information with her that I had never told anyone.
I felt I could be my genuine self with her, which is a feeling that I have not had in a long time. The way she looks at me still gives me chills as I write this. Great, right? With a daughter. And another baby on the way. My co-worker is single with no kids. I have never been truly happy in my marriage. Yes, there were times when I was happy, but not truly happy.
I compare my marriage to vanilla ice cream. I was content in my marriage. I have a good life, good job, nice house, and all the things that come with that.
Eventually, my wife found out about this, but she still wants to work on our marriage. That, combined with the lack of intimacy in our relationship, makes me wonder if I would be happier with a divorce.
I still love my wife, but I am just not in love with her. There is no more spark. I feel much better when I am actually heard, but the resulting fights are frustrating because they are fruitless. So I am left wondering: Do I stay in a mediocre marriage for the kids, or do I leave for my own interest?
When I look down either road, I can see only fear and regret. Any advice? Experiencing such an intense mutual connection feels wonderful, and your task now is to understand the nature of it better. You say the spark is no longer in your marriage and on a positive note, you remember the spark , but many parents entrenched in the day-to-day with infants or toddlers feel this way, and seek out, either in fantasy or reality, a welcome escape from the sometimes mundane, roommate-like existence that couples can fall into during this phase of life.
Communication issues can lead to a person feeling emotionally unavailable, and many people who feel that way come alive in the presence of a shiny new potential partner. Another thing for you to consider as you go through this process is that no one else can tell you what to do. This is especially important because, as you tell it, your earlier decision to get back together with your now-wife was influenced, at least in part, by the opinions of family and friends.
Nobody—not your wife, not a new partner, not your daughter—can fill that hole for you, even if it seems like your co-worker is doing so in the moment. If you were to leave now, you would be the single father of a young child and a newborn, with a girlfriend who may not have an interest in raising these children with you—changing diapers, waking up several times a night, spending time at baby birthday parties and the pediatrician and the park.
Moreover, if you two eventually have children together, you may find yourself five or 10 years from now wondering how you ended up in the same situation once again: content, but with decreased intimacy, increased tension, and a nagging sense that Mocha Almond Fudge is an even better flavor of ice cream than Rocky Road. How open are you to her true self?
How much empathy do you have for her experience of the marriage and what her wants and needs are? Only then will you be able to make a decision not out of guilt or confusion or quiet desperation, but out of a grounded place of knowing. Dear Therapist is for informational purposes only, does not constitute medical advice, and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, mental-health professional, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.
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Similar Answers. It is also not permissible for the mother to incite her daughter against her husband and spoil the good relationship between them. These actions of this mother are evil deeds which are not acceptable in Islam, and they bring the threat of sin and punishment. Perhaps the greatest way in which you can honour your mother is by deterring her from consuming haram wealth and doing haram things, and stopping her from wronging people unlawfully, and remind her of the sin involved in spoiling the relationship between husband and wife, and the sin of gheebah backbiting , reviling and insulting others, and other haram things that she is doing, such as tabarruj wanton display and travelling without a mahram, if these are true in her case. Taking this responsibility from her is helping her to do the things that she is doing that go against Islam, and to neglect her duties, and pass on this burden to your husband, and put pressure on you and your household with something that is not required of you in the first place, let alone the unacceptable things that may result from your sister living in the same house as a man who is not her mahram your husband.
The mother’s rights over her daughter are great but the husband’s rights over his wife are greater
Not quite a year later, my oldest son also died unexpectedly. Now my daughter, whom I was very close to, says she is done with me. On advice from my Christian counselor, I confronted her, and she gave me a laundry list of reasons. Most had to do with me not spending as much time with her. She says she wants me to be happy, but apparently only as a lonely dad and granddad. She has never met my fiancee, but my other son has. He likes her and is happy for me. The only way I can see them is at public events, like ballgames. I asked her to see my counselor with me, but she refuses.
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The last time Jennifer Schlecht spoke with her father, on Sunday, she seemed determined to leave her abusive husband. But the tremble in her voice, her father said, revealed she was afraid for her safety and that of her 5-year-old daughter. She was in tears, a basket case.
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Editor's Note: Every Monday, Lori Gottlieb answers questions from readers about their problems, big and small. Have a question? Email her at dear. Months ago, on a business trip, a female co-worker and I attempted to meet up with others for drinks, but when everyone else bailed, we decided to still go out. After multiple rounds of drinks, barhopping, and great conversation, I realized we had an intense connection.
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Bonds between some daughters- and mothers-in-law are sometimes compared to the close friendship that Ruth and Naomi enjoyed Ruth But far too many women describe this relationship as fragile, tense, and even competitive. Recently I asked some friends a few simple questions about in-laws. I was amazed by the number of replies I received about mothers-in-law. I also was surprised by the depth of their emotion. Her memories are still painful. Until … the topic turned to how many turkey dinners the in-laws had eaten in the last two months and how much better homemade cranberry sauce is than the canned version. I received a three-page response from another daughter-in-law about an overnight visit from her mother- and sister-in-law.
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