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My boyfriends family broke us up

I was inspired to write this article by a She Blossoms reader who loves her boyfriend, but is struggling with his family members. We are now spending our time together discussing how we will get through the family issues, rather than focusing on us and having quality time. I just want to get out of the relationship, but I love him so much. It hurts to think I might have to leave him because of his mother. Focus on your relationship with your boyfriend, not his relationship with his mom. All couples have external problems that affect their relationship, and all healthy couples find ways to work through those problems.


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By Chris Seiter. I mean, sure I have written an article on how to handle disapproving friends and family but an exes mom causing a breakup? That WAS new territory because having a mom cause a breakup between you and your ex is the topic of my latest podcast episode.

You see, about a week ago I got a really interesting voicemail. A woman who wanted to remain anonymous told me that her exes mom had a hand in their breakup and she claims that her ex boyfriend says that he is still in love with her. Your email address will not be published. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Hi EBR team, I experience a similar situation. My boyfriend broke up with me because his parent are very possessive and against us. He blocked me after we had an argument and I apologized. So I am on day 20 of NC rule right now. Hi May! I wrote an ebook, Ex Boyfriend Recover Pro, that is essentially a Companion Guide that is designed to help you step by step what to do during the entire break up process, particularly what kinds of texts you can send after the NC period is over and what you should be doing while in NC.

As far as him blocking you, I am guessing that will change in the future. Not sure why he would be under the spell of his parents to such an extent, but time will tell if and when he will start looking at things through a more independent lens! Lets us know how things proceed, May!

Thanks for the quick reply! I will take a look at the book. Hi May. What I mean is that blocking is usually an emotional act. Sometimes an angry act. Most often when someone is blocked, they end up being unblocked later.

Not always, but most of the time. As you execute your plan as discussed in the ebook your chances of being unblocked increase. Hi Chris. Any suggestions? Try smiling. Perhaps he might spend the rest of the day wondering why you smiled! Loved this podcast. I broke my NC rule after 4 days coz be contacted me. Is this a good sign there he could be missing me? Like this woman in the podcast he ended the relationship because his family were against it, especially his mum, down to cultural differences.

Hello again! Wanted to ask a followup before really getting a plan in motion. A mutual friend came to town a few days ago and visited my ex, and afterward came to me with a lot of info about how he feels etc. If yes, talking to him is not going to change too.. I have been talking to this guy for 4 months and he assured me that he will be dating in August.

We both are in our final semesters and we agreed to wait. Lately he has been hesistant and have been saying his mother has been trying to get some girls to date. He says that he doesnt trust his judgement with woman due to his past relationships. On wednesday he told me that his sister and mum had set up a date with a girl. He told me that he will date me, he jst needs to get over this hurdle of meeting with the girl.

On Thursday, he was acting strange and later started argueing with me that we are very different and went we shouldnt be dating. He later told me that he told his mum about me and our 10 year age gap and she said no, he should be dating someone older. He mentioned he is going to be dating her. What exactly should i be doing? There is alot of information in the podcast. I am at day 9 on the NC, he hasnt contacted me yet but he seems like he doessnt care.

He is posting pics on going of and having lots of fun. Please advise what i should be doing in this instance? I may have left out some of it with just summarizing it.

Are you actively improving yourself? Hi, I have had the same issue. I am 30, he is We are neighbors and both 2nd year Medical School Students. He is Turkish came to the us when he was 13 My Family is Pakistani, and pretty assimilated. Both are very similar cultures, our families are the same religion. We were together 8months. It began very intensely and he was very romantic.

I learned very quickly that his mother, is pretty insane. I only meet requirement one. Month 3 she made angry faces on my facebook pictures with him. Well after discussing each of those things in a logical way, I felt like we were doing well.

We seemed strong, but he would occasionally say he felt guilty by going against her wishes. Then the douzy hit. It was time to go home after our semester for Winter break.

She made a huge fuss about how she had sacrificed so much for him and how she was in so much unbelievable pain blah blah because he continued to be in a relationship with me. Now this is the part that sucks.

Remember how I said we were neighbors… well we were friends, no benefits! It felt like we were still together. Until it happened we got back together! And now here we are….. Being in medical school and taking behavior science. I learned that he is from and enmeshed family system. He clearly is NOT happy. He clearly also loves me. A part of me would love for him to feel enough regret to break free.

So this is all just his mother being an insane, controlling, bitter hag. Then i cut him off completely for a year, he tried to text me a lot but I never responded.

Until he called me recently and said he wants to marry me and will convince his parents, even if they insist he will still choose me.

So I gave him a shot. Thank you. I guess the only hope I have is if he would regret it and build some strength and face them through this NC. Yes, I agree. I mean, in our last conversation it was clear that I was trying to reason with him and he chose his parents regardless of it being unfair although it was his idea to fight for this relationship and this is why I gave him a shot to begin with. Thank you for your response. I know for a fact he still checks on me via social media, and I know for a fact he still has feelings for me.

Okay so my ex and I have been on and off for about 2 years but he still loves me and says he does, vice versa. Background info: We dated for 2 years and a half then we broke up in september He is from Hong Kong and I am Middle eastern.

The race is not an issue, the issue is a lie I told when I was 16… and the mother has disliked me since. I love him and he cares for me deeply.. He is just scared to either fully commit or let go… but WHAT do you all think? Obviously after both of us having a girlfriend and boyfriend after ours.. I just baught ex boyfriend recovery pro yesterday and have read until the text stage.

I get hat I need to start NC rule…but need to explain my situaltion first so that should I even keep the hope:. Me and him completed 3 years this June. We both live in USA and our families are in India.

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Need a quick answer to a relationship dilemma? Relationship expert Dr. Q: My ex and I broke up a year and a half ago because his family didn't like me. He's really big on family and he "couldn't" be with someone his family didn't accept.

By Chris Seiter. In other words, I answer all of your comments and help Chris create content for the website. The truth is that I wanted to know because I wanted to avoid the cause because I am in a relationship too.

I love writing about relationship topics, especially ones that are controversial and difficult to manage. Breaking up with someone you still love is one of the most painful things to go through in life. Many have asked, "Why would you break up with someone if you still love them? But since I have gotten older, and had enough relationship experience to make any girl go crazy, I have learned a few lessons.

Forced Breakup Because Of Parents

I recently just went through a really bad break up for the second time with the same guy. The first time he broke up because his family was not supporting of the relationship. After the broke up… I was very sad… And unintentionally had a really early miscarriage because I did not know I was pregnant. After a few weeks, he found out about my miscarriage and he came to see me once. However, he still decided to leave me without giving me any support or care because he said we already broke up. Long story short… After a while, he decided to talk to his mom again and saying how he still wanted to be with me and wanted to treasure me better and his mom agreed. So he decided to break up with me again… I am hurt so badly that I have started seeing counselling for help. His parents dislike how one of my parents was so irresponsible.

My ex chose family over me — but I want him back

By Chris Seiter. I mean, sure I have written an article on how to handle disapproving friends and family but an exes mom causing a breakup? That WAS new territory because having a mom cause a breakup between you and your ex is the topic of my latest podcast episode. You see, about a week ago I got a really interesting voicemail. A woman who wanted to remain anonymous told me that her exes mom had a hand in their breakup and she claims that her ex boyfriend says that he is still in love with her.

In a way, their validation provides assurance and acceptance while their rejection of your partner does the opposite.


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